Meeting my now husband, was a whirlwind. We fell in love instantly. Early on he taught me a phrase that his friend/brother instilled in him many years ago:
Faith & Honor
This phrase became our motto.
According to Merriam-Webster.com, Faith is defined as, a strong belief or trust in someone or something. Honor is defined as, the respect that is given to someone who is admired, and having high moral standards of behavior.
We have this phrase, “Faith & Honor”, engraved on the inside of our wedding bands. It serves as a reminder to behave in such a way that honors our marriage.
My husband lives this phrase out each day.
He respects our marriage:
When my husband is challenged by having to deal with his past, he handles it with class. Pictures from his former marriage, of he and his ex remained on the walls of his mother’s house and on the walls of her social media. He spoke with her about his feelings, and about respecting our marriage, and requested that these pictures were taken down, which she of course respected.
He’s often caught in the cross fire of dealing with his ex and all the other challenges that come with the territory.
He always puts his own feelings aside to be the best husband and father he can be. I admire that about him.
He invests in our marriage:
Although my husband has a hectic work schedule, he always makes time for us.
Once a week, we have a date night.
He also takes time off to plan adventures and vacations together.
He builds me up:
He openly communicates with me and expresses his feelings.
He sends me texts that make me smile.
He posts on social media, sharing his love for me.
He loves me:
He always gives me hugs and kisses.
He walks by and grabs my butt.
He tickles me.
He cuddles with me.
He has a provider spirit.
He accepts me:
I have a quirky personality with lots of idiosyncrasies. I spend too much time in the mirror with the tweezers. When I get mad, my alter ego comes out.
He laughs at my quirks and appreciates the idiosyncrasies that make me, me.
We have lots of inside jokes about both of our quirks.
He believes in the team mentality:
Our marriage is the head of our tribe. We have to be happy and healthy, in order to be our best for our family. We lead by example. Our marriage is our top priority. We want our girls to have healthy relationships in their future because we modeled this behavior.
Challenges will always come your way. Your inner demons will try to come out. The enemy will test you. Yet, your marriage can be the constant. Believe in your spouse and honor them through your behavior and actions. Faith & Honor.
-The Faith & Honor Stepmom
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