My stepmom metamorphosis.
As a child, I had day dreams about my knight in shining armor coming to rescue me and falling in love. As an adult I became a little more realistic, but I still held onto hope that my one true love was out there. And he was.
I just never imagined my one true love, would have a divorce under his belt, two children, and a past with conflict.
Not quite what I had pictured.
For me to truly accept my situation, I had to grieve the loss of what I expected “falling in love” to be and I had to redefine love.
My husband understood this reality for me. We worked together to accept our situation and allowed ourselves to truly fall in love.
I never wanted him to feel shame for being divorced. This didn’t define him or his identity. In fact, his divorce allowed him freedom from the shackles. He had an opportunity to transform into the man he was destined to be. It allowed both of us an opportunity to meet each other, fall in love, nurture our souls, and find the love and support we’ve always craved and hope for.
We’ve worked as a team to redefine love.
Redefining love in my mind wasn’t easy. Accepting the change took time, hard-work, many honest conversations with my husband and with myself. Researching, reading, and taking time to self-reflect allowed me to see a new perspective to redefine love.
Now I feel in control of my situation. I’ve grieved the loss of what I thought “falling in love” would be. And in turn, my definition of love went through a metamorphosis, and is even better than I ever knew possible.
The love my husband and I have is one of a kind and something I never knew I could be a part of. I’m grateful we both had an opportunity to embrace our situation and metamorphosize into the love we have today.
-The Metamorphosized Stepmom
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