My stepdaughters were at our house and you could tell something was up. They were both arguing with each other and they seemed sad. My husband and I asked them to sit down and share. We listened to both of their perspectives and gave them input attempting to give them some solutions to their problems. After talking for quite some time, my younger stepdaughter felt better and went upstairs to spend some time alone. My older stepdaughter stayed downstairs with my husband and I. Looking like she needed some love, I asked her if she wanted a hug. She replied with a sarcastic, “I don’t know.” So I knew what I had to do.
I leaned down and gave her a huge hug for a long time. I could almost feel her relax and let go. After I let go, she stood up with a huge smile on her face. I told her that I read people need at least 8 hugs a day, so she has to hug daddy and our two dogs, and then come back for more. She finally laughed and smiled her way over to her dad for a hug.
Sometimes a hug is all you need.
-The Hugs Fix Everything Stepmom
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