Being a Stepmom Rocks! The Perks of Stepmotherhood

Stepmoms endure many challenges in their role. They can be deemed as “evil” or “wicked”, but the perks of being a stepmom are something that can’t be forgotten. Being a stepmom rocks in many ways.

1.You Gain Acceptance & Love

Creating a family with your partner and stepchildren allows you to experience more love and unity. Having your stepchildren accept you as a member of the family is the most rewarding feeling for stepmoms. Hearing them say “I love you” or expressing their love towards you in different ways is warming to your soul.

2. You Get to See Your Partner as a Father

Stepmoms get to experience seeing their partner as a father. It’s gratifying to see your partner parent and love their child. If stepmoms are interested in having a baby with their partner, then it’s even more of a perk because they get a glimpse of what parenthood will be like with their partner.

3. You See Your Personality Rub Off on Your Stepkids

There are many proud moments where you realize you are rubbing off on your stepchildren. It’s a proud moment when you discover the life lesson you just talked about with your stepchildren is being repeated from them. It’s also fun to see your personality traits and quirks rub off onto them. Stepmoms take pleasure when their common sayings and expressions are repeated from their stepchildren’s mouths.

4. You Get to Build a Relationship with Your Stepkids

Getting to know your stepchild’s personality is a unique experience. Spending quality time with them allows you to grow and develop your relationship and bond. Building that relationship takes time, but spending time together engaging with each other allows that bond to deepen.

5. You Get Unexpected Expressions of Love

Stepmoms may get surprise expressions of love from their stepchildren. Whether it’s a drawing, letter, note, text, hug, or comment, these unexpected expressions of love bring us the most joy. Sometimes a surprise gift can bring us the most satisfaction. Unexpected gestures are always appreciated by stepmoms.

Gratitude allows us an appreciative attitude. Take some time today to reflect on the things that rock in your stepfamily life!

-The Celebrating the Perks Stepmom

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  1. I love all of your entries and I’m eager to read them when I get the notifications, but I feel like a lot of them don’t apply to me. I’m a younger stepmom to a 16 year old. I met him when he was 13, and he lived with his mom up until last year, so I never had any of the experiences you are having with your stepdaughters. I didn’t get to help raise him or have any of the moments you mention, which is harder for me to connect with him and feel affection. Any advice for stepmoms like me? Thank you in advance.

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    1. Thank you for your feedback. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Starting in the teenage years is very different than starting when they’re younger but there’s still hope. Find small ways to bond and spend time doing what your stepson would be interested in. Tell him you want to hangout with him, even for just a few minutes, and ask what he would like to do. Does he like video games? Board games? Basketball? Competition? Keep things light and fun. Just be yourself and overtime it will grow.



      1. Thank you so much!

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  2. The surprise expressions of love are my favorite. I love this post, it’s a wonderful reminder at a time I needed one! Thank you.

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