Here’s my guest blog featured on bonusfamilies.com.
Becoming bonus is not instantaneous. It takes time and patience before being added to the picture.
My stepdaughters and I have always had a positive relationship since the day we met. They were only 5 and 7. We spent a lot of time at the art table coloring, drawing, and creating. Some of the early drawings by the 5 year old were of her mom, dad, and sister. Sure, it stung a little bit. But as a reasonable adult I understood she was only a kid and she was only expressing herself. I hoped that one day I’d make it into her drawing. Our bonds continued to develop. Then one day, a couple of years later, we were spending time coloring and drawing together. After some time my stepdaughter ripped the page out of her sketchbook and said, “Here Niki, I drew a family picture of us.” I looked at the picture and tears filled my eyes. There I was in the picture with my husband, my stepdaughters, and even our two dogs. I told her she was very talented and that I absolutely loved it. It melted my heart completely.
It isn’t grand gestures or huge moments that mean the most, it’s the little things. That day she made my day and brought joy to my heart. I’ll never forget the day I was added to the family picture.