Category: boundaries

The Best Thing a Father Can Do For His Children is to Love Their Stepmother 

I've seen this quote circling the internet, "The best thing a father can do for his daughter is to love their mother." Every time I read it I add, or stepmother. Dads, the way you love your partner sets the tone for the way your children respect their stepmother. Your actions speak more to your ...

Woo-sa. Achieving Peace as a Stepparent is an Inside Job 

Some people pray, some meditate, but one common theme is that most people are looking to achieve peace. When stepparents hear the word "peace" they don't usually think it describes their life. Words like busy, chaotic, and action filled are a more fitting description. There are so many factors of stepfamily life that are out ...

My Calling 

I was one of the lucky ones who always knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. As a child, I said I was going to become a teacher. As I pursued a career in education and made my way through college, I felt as though teaching was my true calling. Throughout student ...

Stepmom Support in Dealing with Emotionally Abusive People 

In the stepmom role you may encounter an increase in dealing with emotionally abusive people. Researching these types of people will help you step back and see these people for who they truly are, without getting emotionally sucked into their vortex. Seeing the cycle of abuse is helpful in keeping a healthy distance from it. ...

A Must Read!

If you deal with a high-conflict ex, then you need to get this book! This book helps arm you with the tools you need to set boundaries and maintain your sanity. It helps you to find ways to insulate your marriage from the toxicity of a high-conflict person. It also validates that you are not alone ...

BIFF Technique 

High-Conflict People are never easy to deal with. In order to keep communication short, factual, and non-emotional, I discovered the BIFF technique. The BIFF technique includes: Brief- keep your communications short Informative- stay focused on the statements you want to make Friendly (yeah, I cringe at that one too)- this doesn't mean tolerating abuse, it just ...

Take Your Power Back

Have you ever looked yourself in the mirror and thought, what is going on? What am I becoming? I started looking at a version of myself that I didn't recognize. Have you ever felt outraged over someone else's behavior? Have you ever held onto anger that made you feel bitter inside? That was becoming too common ...

Protect Yourself from High-Conflict Personalities and their Pattern of Dysfunction  

When dealing with a High-Conflict Personality (HCP), it is important to avoid getting caught up in their constant complaining, negativity, and attacks. There is a clear pattern of behavior that presents itself. Knowing this and understanding this pattern will keep you from getting sucked into the vortex of negativity. The pattern can start with some ...

Set Boundaries 

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Practice What You Preach

Do you have people in your life that seem to be walking contradictions? They don't practice what they preach. In fact, they preach and then do the exact opposite. Is this alive and well in your life? We all deal with "walking contractions." People may say, "I hate drama. Let's stay out of drama", but then ...